Throw in the French accent and the wry sense of humour, and Lessard just might be the total package. “Some women here have a really unrealistic vision of what a man is supposed to be.They don’t accept that men are what they are; the women have been burned a couple of times, they’ve read all the articles, they have a checklist: uh oh, he didn’t shave for three days. They believe their own conclusions about what a good guy is and what non-relationship material is; some weird criteria.”Kevin Quinlan, whose job as director of policy and communication for Mayor Gregor Robertson keeps him on call, even when he’s on a date, says he doesn’t buy into the idea that Vancouver is the problem.“Vancouver is an incredibly diverse place.With a history of committed monogamous relationships, she finds Vancouver’s dating culture challenging compared to other cities, like New York, where she has had more success.

She also finds it easier to connect outside of Vancouver: she met her most recent love interest at a wedding in France.

Although she works at the Bottleneck and comes in contact with a great number of men, she finds most her age are married.

She’d be happy with just a little more warmth and sensuality. Rachel Fox, a 34-year-old writer, says her experiences of meeting men in other cities, like New York, where she used to live, are incredibly different than in Vancouver: “The pool is a lot bigger there.

I was dating every night.” Fox has an endearing, girl-next-door vibe: Zooey Deschanel with a healthy scoop of irreverent wench. “We are ghettoized, we don’t intermingle and the landscape isn’t conducive to community.”Sara Stocksand, 38 years old and single for a few years, isn’t afraid to say she wants the whole package, including marriage and children.

Generalizations obscure the fact that there are so many people with different interests.

I don’t think it’s fair or accurate to blame the city.

For the record, she says, “I don’t think Vancouver men suck.

They could dress a little better, though.”Where's the best place to score a date?

For a lark one night, she posted a personal ad on Craigslist. Once they saw it, their pictures started coming in. Even before the article ran, women were, well, bitching.