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I haven't made it down the aisle quite yet (that's another article for another day) but as a wedding planner, I get to talk to many newly engaged couples.

One of the first things I like to ask them is how they knew that he or she was the one.

Everyone wants to believe that the trust between partners is unbreakable, but the fact of that matter is that trust is very, very breakable.

From something small, like snooping through texts, to something bigger like infidelity, how will you deal with it?

Is their a difference between the rules set for women and the rules set for men?

(Some feel this is okay even if they wouldnt let anyone else see them that way, and some do not.)95.

Talk about the reasons behind divorce and the pros and cons of therapy now, before you're in a high-pressure situation.

This is a question to ask both yourself and your partner.

Oftentimes, that answer is tied to a conversation the couple had. Believe it or not, that seemingƒhely small detail was a real breaking point in one of my relationships.