Some great conversations have resulted from watching a movie, then talking about how we would deal in those situations. What would you do if there was a world-wide power outage? What would you do if someone stole your identity and you couldn't get it back? What would you do if a couple close to you passed away and you were left to raise their child(ren)? If you had to restart your life (relationships, education, etc.), where would you start? What would your life be like if you said yes to everything? If you were to be on a reality TV show, which one would you be on?

If you became famous, how would you live your life differently? If you could open any business downtown, what would it be? Where would you go/live if you could travel/live anywhere?

If you could have the perfect marriage, what would it look like? Movies are an easy and fun way to dive into topics that we might not otherwise address (or ever face). If your appearance was altered beyond recognition, how would you prove your identity to me? If you were famous for something, what would you want that to be? What movie/tv show best portrays the story of your life?

How do you prefer to take a break at the end of the day?

What one thing could you do today that would make tomorrow better?

Finally, sometimes it's just good to find out how the other person is doing. (i.e., what is the first thing you do when you get to work? What are your favorite/least favorite parts of your day?

Is there a major challenge we should be praying about as a family? What is one thing you have learned about God this year? When was the last time you saw a direct answer to prayer?

, whether we're going "out on the town" or staying in for an at-home date. I loved the beginning, when we were simply friends learning each other's favorite color or favorite type of music.

There's nothing like that quality time and intent in discovering the intricacies of the other person. But there is still so much we can learn about each other; so many ways we can still grow our intimacy through conversation. indulgence Beyond favorites, there's something about knowing if a person prefers a mac or a pc (for example) that can be so telling about personality and how they tick.

What are times you felt closest to/furthest from God? When do you remember first having a personal relationship with Christ?

Was there a spiritual mentor you looked up to when you were younger? What is one thing likely getting in the way of your full potential in Christ? The usual "how was your day" often results in a simple "fine" or "okay." These questions can help expound and get deeper into the other person's daily life.

Let's say you've asked the right questions and you've been careful about the people you date. Words and phrases like "smothered" and "jealous" come to mind. Do both of you clearly understand why sex outside of marriage is so destructive? If your friends or family complain that they don't see you anymore, your relationship has gotten way too exclusive. Do your best to begin each date knowing how you're going to spend your time together. Do we have a good understanding of what forgiveness means? Holding grudges because you've been wronged kills a relationship.