And that’s not the life that young people lead anymore.The age of first marriage is now in the late twenties, and more people in their 30s and even 40s are deciding not to settle down.I spoke with Rosenfeld to hear more about his research, to learn about the ways in which the rise of online dating is defining modern love, and to talk about the biggest misconceptions people have about online dating.

They are important today — roughly one of every four straight couples now meet on the Internet.

(For gay couples, it's more like two out of every three).

The idea is that if you’re faced with too many options you will find it harder to pick one, that too much choice is demotivating.

We see this in consumer goods — if there are too many flavors of jam at the store, for instance, you might feel that it’s just too complicated to consider the jam aisle, you might end up skipping it all together, you might decide it's not worth settling down with one jam. I don’t think that that theory, even if it’s true for something like jam, applies to dating.

By outsourcing our courtship to robots (and robot-like humans) we might save ourselves some pain in the short term, but it degrades us, simplifies us, and fails to provide for our ultimate goal of finding someone accepting of our flaws.

In this age of automation, romance isn’t just one click away—it’s guaranteed.

I felt a deep sense a rejection -- not personally, but on behalf of everyone at the bar.

Instead of interacting with the people around her, she chose to search for a companion elsewhere online.

The rise of phone apps and online dating websites gives people access to more potential partners than they could meet at work or in the neighborhood.

It makes it easier for someone who is looking for something very specific in a partner to find what they are looking for.

Of course, others have worried about these sorts of questions before.