It has generally been rote and fruitless, with occasional flurries of excitement, but for someone who makes their living with words, I've had a weirdly difficult time wooing dudes with them.Still, the day after I turned 40, I decided to fire up an old profile and see what happened.

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My clock didn't begin ticking louder when I turned 40, but the echo of her boots on the floor did.

Before now, the single men I wanted to date weren't interested in nubile twenty-somethings — at least not exclusively — and even in my mid-thirties competition from younger women didn't concern me.

(You might recognize him from being quoted at length in s "Tinder and the Dawn of the 'Dating Apocalypse'" story, which makes him an expert of sorts).

Michael also prefers older women though I assume he wouldn't kick a younger woman out of his bed for eating crackers."Since I was about 17, I've always found something alluring about 'older' women," he wrote me.

There has been no shortage of men under 39 sending me messages and little "likes" through the ether.

And while they're not all necessarily piquing my interest, they're also not the horrible fuckboys whose janky messages and blurry cock shots you see screenshotted on Tumblr and Instagram.

"I'd call it a slow attrition of diminishing returns," Chelsea said about dating in NYC.

"I feel as if I make out with a guy and tell a guy I'd like to enjoy sexual congress, he should be stoked.

It never occurred to me in a serious way before this to lie about my age, even when I hit 30 or 35.