She had a website for her business, was on Facebook, carried a smartphone.

The picture — outdoor photo, big smile — was real, and recent.

And her pitch was straightforward: Looking for a life partner …

Both husband and wife are engaged in constant self denial as they live out the beauty of the Christian marriage.

Jesus said no one can be his disciple unless they take up their cross and follow him. If you know what you are looking for the way I have tried to describe it, I would think you could rule out a lot of losers by using the Internet.

John Piper is founder and teacher of desiring and chancellor of Bethlehem College & Seminary.

For 33 years, he served as pastor of Bethlehem Baptist Church, Minneapolis, Minnesota.So a Christian is not free to marry outside the Lord. And what saddens me, Tony, is how many believers get so entangled emotionally with unbelievers that they either throw away their convictions or they stand on their head to see the other person as a believer when he is not. A mature believer will want his or her spouse not just to profess some kind of creed or be willing to go to church.What they will want is not just a marriage that is minimally Christian, but a Christian marriage.” I say that the biblical issue here is not how you meet, but whom you marry. Let’s just get this clear and then I will circle around to the other.A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives, but if her husband dies she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. So biblically the bottom line for the follower of Christ is: Will you marry only a believer.And husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the Church and gave himself for her.