Whichever way you go, it’s generally an unpleasant experience, and it’s no different on a dating site. That said, there may be no way to really, truly avoid your ex on leading dating sites.The secret, fourth option is that you run into them, and – against all odds – get back together. They are everywhere, and keep showing up when you least expect them, only your EX can actually talk and are 100x more annoying to deal with.

In November she received a letter from a Searchmate adviser saying that her membership was “not progressing as expected”.

The site explained that this was down to most of the gentlemen who were active within her area “going on hold”, meaning they could no longer be contacted.

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It offered her “unlimited personal introductions” to men serious about finding a relationship.

Aileen was promised support from Searchmate’s highly experienced team of matchmakers, and a guaranteed minimum of 15 recommendations.

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She says she “isn’t looking for a major spark” but is searching for a man with a good sense of humour to share her life with. The first blow was when she fell victim to a scammer on an online dating site.