Even though these conversations can feel awkward at first, I don’t think they’re worthy of their scary reputation.

I’ve been dating a guy for about a month, and things have been going really well.

We haven’t talked about the future, but I don’t want to sleep with him until we’re in a committed relationship.

With a few simple steps, you can ensure that having “the talk” feels less daunting and more straightforward.

Many people jump into having “the talk” because it feels like the logical step after dating for a while, but you want to make sure that moving forward is something you actually want. It sounds like you’re pretty clear that you want to be in a committed relationship, but it’s still worth taking the time to clarify your feelings before you approach him. Does it mean you’re starting to integrate your lives? Next, spend some time thinking about where you are and are not willing to compromise.

If he gets upset and stroppy with you, this should send alarm bells ringing.

Think about it: Why might a guy get angry when you tell him you want to wait another couple of dates before jumping into bed?

So the rule is, never judge a man for just wanting to have sex with you.

That’s human, and if he’s on a date with you it’s because he felt some initial sexual attraction.

But how often do we actually hear the nitty-gritty details of how we might actually achieve those things?