You know,everyone to a certain degree lowers thier standards and compromises themselves to be in a relationship. My motto was: Don't make someone a priority who only makes you an option. In my own experiences, those that became important relationships we slept together on the second date. Just as a romantic relationship grows and blossoms, so does the sex in that relationship. Boy, Closer2U, that seems like and awful lot of energy spent on what other people think.

It was not necessarily planned that way, but it did. You gotta figure out what is important to you in a relationship.your dealbreakers may be..floats your boat... Don't let anyone talk you into something you aren't comfortable with. Aside from that, what's the word for a guy who holds back ...

It is just a variation of a man telling you he'll get blue balls, that he loves you on the third date or he is going to be drafted.. Men are the same as they always been attraction wise.

They say they want women to call them and lead but they really don't.

And you can't let them set the pace or they scare themselves.

Women have had to led men to lead forever, that wont change. Their actions are the only true way to tell what is going on. There are still charming men out there, though I find not here x D I am still hoping! I am the 'NO CASUAL SEX' advocate for my own life because I know myself well enough at this age and time to realize, I bond emotionally to a man when I have sex with him,but that doesn't mean he will bond back.

Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... Best site I've been on, I believe I'll be here until I can convince someone that they really like me !!

Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate. The rules may have changed on the outside but the rules of attraction are timeless. Why waste his time and mine if he's not serious about me beyond a hummer, is my contention? I can't settle for just lust as it leaves a hole in my being bigger than I can handle.Well,do yourself a favor,don't cut off your "nose" to spite your face. It was too easy to just jump in bed with any tom, d*ck or harry with a hard-on for me. Someone who appealed to more than just my sexual side. (I think I meant that some men still think women should have "more self respect" but also want us to be "free" to have sex with them. It had nothing to do with needing to be "moral" or preserving myself respect. But I sure as shootin' was looking for a man with a HEART ON for me..just a hard on. I found one by taking a chance on him and having sex right off the bat. Oh..number is '39' over my lifetime..(NO shame)..I didn't marry them all! lol Your comfort is what should be the motivator for you OP.Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing...Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate. Some who seem to be playing games and sending mixed messages.